Honest relationship is a myth, more like an oxymoron. The truth is that you will always find someone in a relationship who just can't handle the truth. It reminds me of a story that one of my friends told me once. He was being constantly pestered by his newly married wife if he ever had any adventure in a strip joint during his bachelor days and she managed to convince the poor guy that she was just curious and wanted to know the crazy things he did in his life. Then there was the customary talk about the importance of the 3 ty's in a relationship--Sincerity, Loyalty and Honesty. It is funny that this conversation happened during their first night when they were having their first heart-heart conversation after their wedding. My friend, who always thought that sharing his bachelor adventures was unnecessary, in a sudden bout of self-righteousness expressed his one and only (mis)adventure to a strip joint. That single moment of insanity on his part to express the truth cost him so dear that he has to show his wife a written and signed letter from his manager as evidence every time he has to stay longer than usual at work. Now this may sound funny but it is true.
Lessons learnt from the above story:
1. When you gotta fcuk, fcuk. Don't talk.
2. Lie whenever possible to make him/her feel special. You can get away by being honest only if you look like some Greek God (or Goddess) or if you are as powerful as a certain Mr Clinton(though I bet "The Art of Lying" is one of his favorite books)
Though I have cited the example of a female, it doesn't mean males are any different. This is not the New Age mantra. It has been there ever since Eve asked Adam how much he loved her and Adam, unable to honestly express his feelings in words, chose to bite the cursed apple instead to make her feel special. Like one of my colleague says, Men gotta do what they gotta do...and more. Making him/her feel special is the only way you can hope to sustain a relationship and unless you are rich enough to buy expensive gifts every time, Lying is your only tool to strengthen the foundation of relationship and increase mutual trust and confidence. Always remember that the perception of you being honest, sincere and loyal is more important than you being actually honest, sincere and loyal.
P.S: If you are honest and can't or don't want to lie in a relationship no matter what, then be proud of it. You may not have a spouse/lover as a trophy for display but you will always have a clearer conscience and a head slightly higher than the liars, if that matters.
Lessons learnt from the above story:
1. When you gotta fcuk, fcuk. Don't talk.
2. Lie whenever possible to make him/her feel special. You can get away by being honest only if you look like some Greek God (or Goddess) or if you are as powerful as a certain Mr Clinton(though I bet "The Art of Lying" is one of his favorite books)
Though I have cited the example of a female, it doesn't mean males are any different. This is not the New Age mantra. It has been there ever since Eve asked Adam how much he loved her and Adam, unable to honestly express his feelings in words, chose to bite the cursed apple instead to make her feel special. Like one of my colleague says, Men gotta do what they gotta do...and more. Making him/her feel special is the only way you can hope to sustain a relationship and unless you are rich enough to buy expensive gifts every time, Lying is your only tool to strengthen the foundation of relationship and increase mutual trust and confidence. Always remember that the perception of you being honest, sincere and loyal is more important than you being actually honest, sincere and loyal.
P.S: If you are honest and can't or don't want to lie in a relationship no matter what, then be proud of it. You may not have a spouse/lover as a trophy for display but you will always have a clearer conscience and a head slightly higher than the liars, if that matters.
4 comments:
Hee Hee Hee .... Super !!
abs mayt... a man gotta do what a man gotta do, and moreover, Truth and Lie are just different perspective... it boils down to our self interest, and that way every alpha of word you say is a bet of truth... nice1 :)
Whatever you said is the actual "Truth" .... I'm with you :)
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